How, When, And Who To Toast
To At Your Wedding Reception

Wedding receptions are extremely famous for their traditions. With so many rehearsed events and ritualistic qualities, a wedding reception is probably the only social party where the guests know what to do and what to say in their respective roles. 

Some wedding traditions are practically required. An example is the bouquet toss or the first dance. Other traditions are less common and may only be found within certain regions of the country or within certain ethnic groups. It's a good rule of thumb never to feel obligated to include a wedding tradition that you do not care for.

One very common and almost universal tradition is the wedding toast. Sounds simple enough, right? Well keep in mind that this is a wedding after all, and even the toasting portion may have a planned routine to it. Below are some common questions regarding toasting at the wedding reception.

Is there a proper time for the best man to make his toast?
Once the receiving line has ended and all of the guests have been seated then everyone is served with a glass of champagne (or any sparkling beverage of their choice). This is now the ideal time for the best man to stand up and toast to the newlyweds. The rest of the guests stand as well but the bride and groom remain seated, while receiving the best man's toast.

What is the order of toasting at the reception?
We have learned that typically the best man is the first to toast to the couple. Next, the groom is to take his place by announcing his toast, followed by the parents, and then all other guests who would like to participate.

What type of toasts are appropriate for the reception?
The rehearsal dinner toasts were probably light hearted and practiced half jokingly, but during the real reception the toasts should be very series and meaningful. A toast from the best man may go something like this:  "To my very best friend Mike and his lovely new Bride Angie, may you both experience the kind of love and magic that you deserve, forever".

If you are at all nervous or worried about the events at your wedding, and when they should happen, it would be a good idea to consult with a toastmaster, and have one on hand on the day.

Article by Roger Mayne of Surrey Weddings wedding directory